I came to the harsh conclusion a few years ago that if I had to wait the good will of someone to do things with me I would miss a lot of opportunities, sometimes you just won’t find a friend to go watch that movie, go to that concert, try that new restaurant, or travel. So you either do it by yourself or accept the reality that it’s not going to work. Well, I’m here to tell you to ditch your friends and be happy!
Yeah yeah, doing things with friends are lot better, but if you are like me and don’t have many friends you know how frustrating can be waiting for someone to go out with and do something. Unfortunately, we have that idea that going out alone is the saddest thing in the world and if you do it you are that loser who is going to die alone and have your corpse ate by your 20 cats. There is nothing wrong about that, unless you have cat allergies.
After I accepted that my friends won’t always have the time and energy for me I got a lot of stuff done. Whenever I couldn’t find someone to watch a movie as DYING to watch, I would go by myself, spoiler alert: it is an enjoyable experience. After my exchange I traveled by myself, and it was one of the best things I did in my life (and the reason I’m writing this post). Traveling alone is one of the most liberating things you can do and it made me more confident in myself.
Let me paint this picture for you: Before traveling alone to the U.S I was afraid to take a bus and travel to city only 2 hours away from home, you hear so much about “big cities” and it looks like going there by yourself is a tragedy waiting to happen. But now, I feel like I could go anywhere in the world. I know that even if things go wrong I can switch plans and survive. This made me a better person and I don’t even want to know where I would be without this experience.
You know when people talk about things they wished they knew when they were younger? This is something I wished everyone had in their minds. that doing something that you want by yourself it’s not sad, and that it’s a great way to open your world to new experiences.